Be Resilient

[A beautiful jellyfish at the Sealife Aquarium in Carlsbad, CA]

“I get knocked down but I get up again, you’re never gonna keep me down!” (-Lyrics from Tubthumping) Even though that song may have a completely different interpretation of what I have remembered it to be, I remember this chorus and it reminds me of being resilient.

I think resilience is something we as humans have come to adapt at a very early age. When something harmful happens to us as toddler and kids, we are usually told that everything will be ok and not to worry. We are cared for, loved and nurtured so we wouldn’t have to  be in any pain or endure suffering. As we grow up, we don’t want to receive that much nurturing because we are expected to be more resilient, strong and brave. We are not to show any sign of weakness or pain and thus becoming resilient to adversities and pain. So why do we even hurt in the first place? To me, I think that unfortunate situations happen for 3 reasons:

1. It makes our skin tougher: Sometimes we can over-hear unpleasant comments sometimes and our best bet is to take it with a grain of salt and know that your higher consciousness knows better

2. It allows us to be grateful for the things that are going right in our lives such as our good health, our happy times with friends and family. To highlight the good in our life is much more important than to highlight everything that is going wrong.

3. It teaches us to not sweat the small things: Sometimes you’ll know when you’re acting dramatic or overly exaggerated to get a response to feed your emotions or ego.

To me, there’s always a bigger picture beyond our daily duties. At the end of the day, you must gather happiness from within yourself and be truly grateful.  Being able to stay strong and being true to yourself is much more important that the little disputes that you may encounter throughout the day. So chin up and keep on truckin’!



12 Replies to “Be Resilient”

  1. Thanks for this K. One of the keys to resilience for me is having people around to whom I can reveal how I’m actually doing, even if I feel hurt or sad in that moment. If I feel like I’m in an environment where I need to look tough all the time, I’m just going to want to get away from it.

    1. Hi Chris, you bring up a good point. I think that’s great that you have people around you to help you reveal how you are doing. Sometimes the best and honest advice can be an eye-opener!

  2. BEAUTIFUL words to live by, and excellent reminder, Kim! I agree with Chris too, a support system is a great help when the falls are hard, they help soften the blows while we regroup. And just remembering to be kind and loving towards ourselves while we dust ourselves off and start again. :o)

  3. One of the best examples I have of resilience is my foster son Dan. Dan came to live with my family as a fourteen year old autistic teen who had just lost his parents, his home, and everything in the world that mattered and was familiar to him. He was plopped down in the middle of a family he didn’t know, with other kids for the first time, a dog (!), and food he didn’t recognize. And because of his autism, limited communication skills. But he not only adapted, he thrived. Now that’s resilience!

  4. You are absolutely right.
    When we look at the bad moments that happen in our life, we should keep in mind how stronger it makes us.
    I learned this in the last 4 years since I was diagnosed with postpartum depression and then bipolar 2 disorder. This illness has made me realize that I am stronger than I ever thought imaginable.
    ps. That song will be in my head all day 🙂

    1. Thanks for sharing Kimberly, you are a strong person! Keep those uplifting and positive thoughts going and you will continue to live a wonderful life. Much peace and light to you and your loved ones!

  5. We have it in us to be resilient. However, some of us may find it hard to muster it more than others. Self-doubt is usually what holds us back. We start to feel small, limited and powerless when there is negative self-talk going on. When we get to know about how resilient we can be, we find ourselves being able to pick ourselves much faster.

    Thank you for reminding us that we have it in us to overcome our challenges.

  6. Kim: I am becoming more resilient from every struggle I go through. Yesterday, I lost my phone and thought somebody stole it from me. I search and search, and searched, but to no avail. I even went to some of the previous places I was within that hour, but I always came up empty handed to my solutions.
    The good thing was that I did not panic or worry too much because I remembered that it was only a material object and something that could be replaced. I felt too strong to let any material object by my happiness down.
    When I made it home, I searched my car one last time and found my phone! After doing all that riding around, I realised that my time was not wasted because I became stronger in the face of adversity.

  7. Great post Kim! This is my favorite characteristic. I often wonder why I don’t hear this word more often than I do. Resilence is what makes excellence, whether your digging ditches, fighting fires (me), or a cubicle king, resilence is what makes us better. It’s pushing through tough times with the confidence in knowing that you can succeed in your troubled situation. This confidence can only come from experience. And you will eventually fail, it’s resilence that keeps you going when you do.

  8. lovely lovely photo, and resilience is certainly needed as we walk through this often difficult life. thanks for stopping by my blog and taking the time to leave your kind comment 🙂

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