Be Able to Take Rejection

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There are as many opportunities as there are fish in the sea

 

Hi Everyone!

The topic of this post may seem “negative” but as you read on, I hope it encourages you and ignites some sort of happiness sparks (sparksofhappiness.com coming soon!)

Being able to take rejection is something we don’t usually teach our kids or talk much about. It’s sort of a negative topic that we don’t really like sharing. I bring this topic up because I’ve been rejected a couple of time in my 26 years of living and it’s not that fun. Your ego hurts, the people around you feel your pain and it takes a period of time before you can get over it. However, I am a firm believer in managing our thoughts to benefit ourselves and others. Rejection hurts, plain and simple – but how can we can benefit from this experience? There has got to be a silver lining somewhere, right?

WHY REJECTION IS AWESOME: 

  1. It builds character – Not being accepted can bruise our ego or self-esteem (if we allow it.) It can hurt for a period of time but being able to realize that you’re not suited for something or someone  allows you to work harder and be better in another aspect of your life, a particular field or even your basic outlook on life. 
  2.  It’s a sign – The Universe doesn’t want you to be at that particular place or with that particular person at this moment of your life. No matter how hard you wanted it or thought it would be good for you, it may just be a timing issue. Being able to accept that fact also builds your character as one who is understanding and can let things go. Better opportunities are most likely awaiting for you. 
  3. Gratitude is expressed – Being rejected can humble some people in certain aspects and can turn their attention to things and people that they do have in their lives.
  4. Acceptance is practiced – Acceptance aka “surrendering” is the best thing we can do when we no longer have control of what we want and need. We can get caught up by being so eager or anxious that it can definitely take a toll on our bodies. When we practice acceptance or surrendering, we lift that additional stress off our bodies.

Although it hurts, human have the capability of moving forward with life and that’s why I am so happy that rejection exsists. If we look at it in another light, it will help ease any bruises we may have encountered. Life is simply awesome and it will always move forward.

awgrat

Be Able to Embrace Your Own Style

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Photo taken at a bonsai garden in Oakland, CA

What’s your flavor? 

This past week, I had a  long conversation about how people have different tastes. I noticed that everyone has their own preferences and likes and at a certain time in your life you begin to own it. During our younger years in school, it’s a little more difficult because we don’t know exactly know who and what we’re striving to be. We want to try everything and anything.  At a younger age, our typical cares are about different things so we often get side-tracked and unaware of what we want. This phase can be very tricky so you learn what you DO want versus what you DON’T want.  Later on as we mature and grow up, we begin to notice the habits we’ve developed and what we want to do with our lives. Our own lifestyle, vales and beliefs begin to be  and we  begin to live it out and we make it our own.

Why we should embrace our own style?

If we are content with our lifestyle (even if it’s not to our liking just yet), we are expressing gratitude and in my books, gratitude is the attitude for positive abundance. Own up to your positive style and be thankful to have experienced what you’ve experienced so far & having everything that you currently DO have. I’m reminded of my favorite quote, “You have to be before you can do, and you have to do before you can have.” -Dr. Rob Anthony

Embracing your own personal style is what allows us to be confident and happy in life. When our gratitude is shown then the whole world has another light that is shining and bringing a vibrant energy to our force field. According to a fact sheet from the University of Nevada, it says that, “Energy fields do not seem to have inevitable outcomes, but seem to be influenced by what people do.” http://www.unce.unr.edu/publications/files/hn/2003/fs0368.pdf 

But what if you’re still searching for a style? 

If you’re still uncertain about what style to take on, I’d suggest finding a mentor or someone you resonate with. Take some of their qualities/traits and use them as your own if you feel comfortable with it. The more you are comfortable and confident, the more you can begin to define your life’s purpose. The more you define your purpose, the more meaningful life will be.

Quick & Simple Affirmations to  Help Own Your Style:

  • I am happy  with my lifestyle.
  • I make my decisions with ease.
  • I am always healthy and alive.
  • My daily tasks are important to me and benefits other people.
  •  I am always moving towards positive directions.
  • I am present and aware.

awgrat

Be Able to Recognize the Good

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This past weekend was a blessing for me!

I was with my mom and she told me a story about how her great-grandmother was a firm believer of the Law of Attraction. Of course, that’s not what it was called back then. However, the main strength of the  message is the same. That message was, “If you think good thoughts, good things will happen and if you think bad thoughts, bad thoughts will happen.” The “self-fulfilling prophecy” or “karma”as others call it as well. There are many different interpretations and sayings but the main message is the best and most important part.

I’m sure a lot of us may (or may not) believe in this in some way or another but do we really remember to play it out on a daily basis?

I know some days it can be hard to turn the other cheek, especially if we’re having an “off” day and I think that’s completely normal. But if we’re continuously beating or belittling ourselves on a regular basis, then it can create serious effects. Being able to recognize the good simply means, being grateful and taking a second  or two to actually look around you and notice your breath, that you have your vision and/or sense of smell. We often take those amazing things for granted and sometimes we have to step back and say, Hey! I am perfectly healthy and happy and at the end of the day that’s all that matters.

Here are some ways to recognize the good in your life:

  • Think of 3 things that went smoothly in the past 5 hours.
  • Look up at the sky and make a positive intention.
  • Inhale in and feel your chest expand with an abundance of air.
  • Write down some things your grateful for and just be thankful for those things/events.
  • Hang a nice picture up and let it remind you of the good you have in your life.
  • Play with your pets.
  • Think highly of the ones you love.

I am really grateful that my mom was able to share that little story with us, it’s as if she too was awakened to think outside the box of abundant possibilities. For that, I am happy.

awgrat

 

Be Able to Enjoy Being 26

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Hi everyone!

Words can’t describe how grateful I am that you happen to stop by.

Today marks my 26th birthday here on planet Earth and I’m the type to give thanks and express how happy I am to arrive at this age.

This past year, I learned a lot and went through some challenging situations that I wasn’t really ready for. But that’s life right?  The Universe just gives us situations to handle because they believe you’re ready for it now. So, I was given those challenges and I assume I took it like I champ because I’m still alive & kickin’! =) Honestly, I’m thankful for those challenges because I would have never learned or experienced such situations unless it was placed at that exact moment in my life.

This year, I learned how to become more comfortable in my own thoughts and to switch my negative thoughts and emotions to positive ones. I think that’s a habitual effort that I have to continue to work on, maybe until I’m in my 90’s. I know its results are beyond amazing so I intend that if you’re reading this, you’ll join me to form that amazing habit as well.

I also learned how to breathe and take a minute or two to slow down and relax. Everything is so fast-paced you’re concentrated on something that you can forget to just inhale and de-stress your body. Our bodies are always working hard and we need to give it periodic breaks for it to remain sharp and healthy. When I get overwhelmed, I stop and inhale as slow as I can and release my breath with a clear mind. That allows me to go back at my task in a better mood and I more relaxed manner.

I also learned that when faced with making decision, go with the one that makes you most happy or has a positive outcome. It isn’t being selfish because it’s going from within yourself and it feeds your soul. You have to take care of yourself before you take care of others.  Feeling guilty or overly caring about someone who is capable of their own feelings and emotions can’t do any good.

Those are some of the major things I learned and/or had to pay more attention to this year and hopefully those points can inspire you to look at your life in a positive perspective.

This space undoubtedly allows me to channel my inner happiness by sharing my personal life experiences, lessons and just living in the present moment. Thanks for letting me share that with you.

Also, thank you for taking the time to read this, I know it may sound a bit sappy but the fact that you’re reading this means you have taken the time to show your love and support for me on our happy journey through life!

Thank you the bottom of my heart.

awgrat

Be Able to Keep Learning

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Hi again!

Hope you’re all having a great July as the end of the month draws near.

This past month, I was reminded that learning something new can play a big part in our ego. I say “can” because for some people, going back to school or learning a new skill isn’t such a big deal and being able to learn is something that they yearn for. For others (like myself) we find it somewhat challenging to seek out other modes of learning something new.

For me, I know my silly ego likes to get in the way and gets bruised because she thinks she knows everything there is to know about something. Taming my ego is what I like to call it. Some days I have to put my ego on check and say, “Look, you can really benefit from this and it will be good for you to know this, now sit and learn!” It may seem childish but it helps me to strive to learn more.

Likewise, I know some individuals who are perfectly happy with learning something new, those that don’t want to hear what you’ve got to say and those who just hear portions of what you say. Which one are you?

Especially if we’re older in age, we quickly think that we know everything through experience and prior knowledge. Then, we’re faced with a question that we don’t quite know the answer to. Do we just forget about it or do we do some research and seek out the correct answers?  The ability to keep learning allows us to be more knowledgeable and experienced so when a situation arises, we can handle it.

Everyone is different and it’s understandable why some people learn particular things faster than others.

It would be in our favor to be open to learning new things and here are some reasons why:

  • It allows us to think ever further beyond our own scope.
  • It allows us to put our feet in someone else’s shoes.
  • It keeps our minds alert.
  • It exercises our minds just as we must exercise our bodies.
  • We can gather the correct information and pass it on to others, thus creating awareness.
  • It can piece together the gaps of old facts and new facts.

What’s your learning style? Do you enjoy teaching or learning? Or do you just like to soak it all in and use it when the right time calls for it?

 

awgrat

Be Free of Worries

 

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Hi all!

As June comes to an end, I’m reminded that half the year is over! How are those resolutions coming along? =)

I was thinking about our worries the other day and I thought, a lot of us can easily get carried away with our everyday worries. Our minds begin to think of one worrying thought, and then it just builds and continues until we are distracted by another thought.

Sometimes we have to just have to stop that traffic in our heads and abruptly say, “STOP!”

Is this even worth worrying that much about?” I know I find myself in that situation and it’s freeing to just be able to slow your thoughts down and say, “This too will pass.” That’s how I get through my worries of the week.

Here are some tips to stop those worrying thoughts:

  1. Take control of what thoughts you are thinking by placing the actual thoughts that you want in your head.
  2. Create a thought-reminder such as a small item, a notification on your phone or a sticky note on your desk that brings you back to the present moment that you are in.
  3. Be more grateful for where you are and what you are doing.
  4. Inhale deeply and with each exhale, release each worry.
  5. Meditate and clear you head of the thoughts, even for just 5 minutes.

I particularly like this part in Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, it says, “Your mind is an instrument. It is there to be used for a specific task, and when the task is completed, you lay it down. As it is, I would say 80 to 90 percent of most or people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless, but because of its dysfunctional and often negative nature, much of it is also harmful. Observe your mind and you will find this to be true. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy.”

It goes on to say,

“The good news is that you can free yourself from your mind. This is the only true liberation. You can take the first step right now. Pay particular attention to any repetitive thought patterns, those old gramophone records that have been playing in your head perhaps for many years.”

I truly believe that we have to be in control of our thoughts and think further out into the future. If an abrupt event happens and leaves you are shaken, just think that this is only a lesson and that you have the power to bounce back from this event.

 

Hope all of you have a worry-free week!

awgrat

Be Able to Relieve Spinal Discomforts

 

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Hi all,

This weekend, my mom shared this helpful video with me. It was shared to her by a friend and it visually shows fairly simple moves on reducing stress on the spine. I’m currently 25 years old but I have noticed pressure on my spine on several occasions.

 

Sometimes I feel as if gravity pushed down on the spine and sometimes, it just needs to stretch. I usually don’t mind it much but I have been looking for holistic ways to reduce the tension. Luckily, I ran across this video and I immediately headed to my yoga mat and tried these moves out. The results aren’t immediate but the simple exercises has relieved the tension on my spine.

For me, I just mimicked exactly what the man is doing in the video. However, I didn’t do that last move as I haven’t felt comfortable doing it just yet.

 

Here’s what the original except included: 

This video very good for relieving backaches and correcting bad spinal alignments from bad postures etc. I provided a simple English translation of the guide at the end of this writeout. The following guide is an excerpt from explanation given by demonstrator in the video and translated to English (by myself):
1st move: Lie flat on your back, bend knees and rotate lower body from side-to-side relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles. From time to time, pause and massage abdomen and waist to relieve tense muscles.
2nd move: Almost similar to 1st move, but rotate upper body together. Hands pointing about 45 deg downwards, cannot be straight down, or too high up. Make sure top of head, hips & feet always in contact with the ground when rotating, or else this exercise will not be effective. Again, relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles.This step helps to straighten the spine. If you are suffering from back discomfort, do 2nd step for longer time per session (continuously up to 2 hours no problem).** Please ignore the exemplary move where both feet were brought up to hip level and held onto by hands and body being rolled from side-to-side. This move is not in the routine, it was merely a demonstration.
3rd move: Lie flat on your back with arms raised slightly above shoulder level. Wiggle your hips up/down, your feet will look like they are in stepping motion. First do with toes up, and repeat. Then switch to toes down and repeat. Again, relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles. Those with bad spinal alignment will feel discomfort when doing 3rd move, it is suggested to spend longer period doing the 2nd move.
When the spine gets straightened slowly after multiple sessions, the discomfort during the 3rd move will go away.These few short moves will help a lot of people. I hope that you can share it out because somebody might be suffering much worse than myself and in need of guidance to relieve spinal related discomfort or pain. I’m thanking you on their behalf.
*Disclaimer: This video is being shared only as a guide as I find it to be effective through my personal experience stated above. I’m not the original owner of this video as it is currently shared by multiple users on Facebook & Youtube. Also, I’m not a medical practitioner and I shall not be held liable to any injuries experienced by viewers who used this guide.”

Hope this can help you or others in the same situation.

awgrat


Be Able to Enjoy the Flower Moon

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Hi everyone and happy Friday!

If you happen to catch Friday’s full moon, you would have see a huge Full (Flower) Moon. Based on it’s name, it means that all of nature’s beautiful flowers will abundantly bloom this month.

Some Algonquin tribes knew this full moon as the Corn Planting Moon or the Milk Moon (via FreePeopleBlog) Most gardeners will reap their harvest this time of the month as their crops are ready to by picked. Stories say that the flowers will grow under the moonlight and dance for the moon =) Also, it’s good to dig into the soil (with your hands) under the moon and reap for your harvests. The Almanac has the best planting facts if you’re interested

I celebrated with some spiritmind friends and we were able to take an outdoor labyrinth walk at my sweet friend, Kate’s house. She’s a true friend of nature, with a  great backyard filled with so many lovely plants, gardens, a huge labyrinth, a ceramic studio and so much more.

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Have a  lovely 3-day weekend all and Happy Memorial Day!

awgrat

Be Able to Choose Your Thoughts

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Hello everyone,

Thanks for stopping by today!

I wanted to do a reminder post about how important it is to think happier and uplifting thoughts.

So here are some quick do’s and don’ts for your thoughts:

DO

thank others who are helping you.

repeat positive affirmations on a daily basis

encourage yourself by saying, “you CAN do it!”

look in the mirror and say nice things to yourself

put some of your earnings into tithing

read more uplifting books and articles

DON’T

wake up with a complaint

judge others based on their looks

watch the news (it’s filled with fearful tactics)

blame your family for your short-coming’s

think small of yourself

There have been times when I would hear troubling stories from a friend or relative. At first, it’s hard to come up with the right things to say, especially when you know that they’re in such a vulnerable spot. I usually listen with an open ear and an intention that after all of this passes, only good will manifest into their lives.

For me, I usually say the truth and what I feel about the situation. Then I figure a plan of action which usually requires some affirmations and a change of thought pattern. Overtime, if they DO remember to choose positive thoughts, their life can become significantly better. It’s a habit that must be formed just as it is to brush your teeth every day. If you don’t do it every day, you’ll simply forget to do it.

Not being able to help or encourage someone is tough, especially if it’s a person that I know and love. However, I do believe in timing and that all realizations and mind-clarity will come at a certain time and place. For every person on this planet, certain situations can happen at any given time. We don’t have a specific timeline that shows when this or that will happen, but I do believe that we can shape those situations from being detrimental into a learning experience.

I am reminded every day that our thoughts literally unveil our future. I am an example of that because I saw how my life changed from thinking negative thoughts in the morning to positive thoughts in thoughts in the morning. Before, I’d wake up and the first thought was a either a complaint about having to wake up too early or how awful it will be at work that week. Those negative thoughts are immensely harmful for your own well-being and it lets the Universe know that you are unhappy, ungrateful and not deserving of the many blessings that life has to offer. So chose the better thoughts, always.

My thoughts and prayers go to the victims of the Oklahoma tornado and for all people suffering from natural disasters. Much peace to you and your loved ones and you’re in our thoughts.

 

awgrat

 

Be Able to Use Feng Shui

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Earlier this week, I had a conversation with a lady from work and she asked me if I followed the ideas of Feng Shui. Being an enthusiast of (Western) Feng Shui, I said, “YES!” Personally,  I’ve read (and continue to read) about Feng Shui since my college days and it’s something my mom and aunts have taught me at a young age. I do it around my house, rooms and office and it definitely works for me.

So she began asking me several questions and it led to an extensive conversation. I had to provide her with a disclaimer though – I told her I’m not an expert, licensed or magician  but I can make several suggestions for you.

Here are some questions she had for me that day:

Her Question: I want togetherness and closeness with my family, how can I do that?

Answer: My first thought was, “pray” and do a short affirmation about you’re family being in complete harmony and love. Then I exaplained that the family section is to the west-side of her front door of her house. I asked her what she had there and she didn’t have much that represented family, so I told her to place a happy picture of her and her family. Adding a live plant can also help because of it’s lush green color and the representation of life.

Her Question: There’s a sword near my husband’s side of the bed is that ok?

Answer: No, especially if it’s the love/romance/marriage side of your room. Swords mostly represent fighting, combat or violence and this isn’t what you want in your relationship.

Q: I don’t have room in my wealth section to add more things, what should I do?

Answer: Make room! Get rid of whatever is there and place the right items that go in the wealth section such as: a fish (or turtle) tank, bamboo plants, lucky Buddha statues, coins, piggy-banks (any representation for money or wealth for you)

Western or modern Feng Shui is the art of position certain pieces of furniture (or items) in a harmonious location either in your house, room or office. Think of is as placing items in particular sections of your house so that better energy can flow through. There are other types as well that go into detail and depth and it’s up to the individual to decipher which techniques are best for them.

Here are 5 basic Feng Shui tips you can do today:

1.  Clean the space: Energy needs to flow smoothly in your space and how can it do that if the room is messy and unorganized? Cleaning allows the good energy to flow smoothly, allowing you to have good opportunities and things to come into your life.

2. Throw Things Away: I learned recently that I cannot keep every momento and note from friends and family. Only keep meaningful things and toss the things you absolutely do not need. Getting rid of old items allows you to have new things in your life that may possess better energy.

3. Google the Bagua: The Bagua is an octagon where each side has a representation of your life. It has 8 sides that include: Your career, self-understanding, family, wealth, fame/reputation, love, children, travel/helpful people. In each of these sections you may place a specific item or furniture piece that relates to one of those sections. For example, on the love section of my bagua (in my room) I can put fresh flowers or pictures of my loved ones. Those items represent love and placing red items or items representing love, will ultimately bring more of that into my life.

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4. Donate Stuff: Consider donating things you don’t need anymore such as old clothes that don’t fit, shoes, electronics that you don’t use or old magazines and books. Helping others and giving is another terrific way to increase better vibrations into your life.

5. Think Bright & Open: Open your shutters or blinds that you tend to keep close to let natural light come into your room. If you’re concerned about privacy, consider putting up light curtains that still allow the sunlight to come in. Open your windows once in awhile to let fresh air come in and circulate fresh, clean air into your room.

Western or modern Feng Shui is the art of position certain pieces of furniture (or items) in a harmonious location either in your house, room or office. Think of is as placing items in particular sections of your house so that better energy can flow through. There are other types as well that go into detail and depth and it’s up to the individual to decipher which techniques are best for them.

If you’re curious about it or never found it interesting, there are many books and sites online to learn more about it. Make sure you pick something that resonates with you and don’t feel forced to do anything that doesn’t feel good for you. Remember to always listen you your intuition before following a stranger. It’s not just a woo-woo thing, religious-based and doesn’t require buying new furniture, it just requires a bit of moving, tossing out and placing items in their respective places.

Hope that helps and good luck!

awgrat