Be Able To Prioritize

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First things first –

Lately, I’ve noticed that between the holiday gatherings and having to attend my grandfather’s services, that I have been scattered beyond words. I’ll admit that I haven’t been able to remember to breathe in between takes but today which is just straining on the body. However, I finally have some time to be able to prioritize what needs to be done. The first and foremost was rest (which luckily, I’ve gotten much of) and the next is to feed my passion which is why I am writing today. To me, being ale to encourage or uplift just one person is fulfilling my passion.

To prioritize can be difficult especially when it feels as if you’ve got a million things going on. I personally want to start on several tasks today but I know that making a list and putting the most important things first will help me. Even though I’ve got heaps of free time today, I know there was a lot of things I’ve put to the back-burner so today, I will alleviate those tasks.

Here are some ways that help me to prioritize and this may help you too, they include:

Asking my inner self – When I have a lot of free time and I don’t know where to start, I ask my inner self, “Self, what needs to be done at this very moment?” And I take a pause and I listen, with an open mind and open heart. This allows you to choose the right action at the right moment. To build this inner-connection with yourself, just be silent and still. Closing your eyes and isolating yourself can help too

My Clear App on my phone and my phone’s calendar – These apps help me to remember what absolutely needs to be accomplished and when it needs to be done. No “if’s” “and” or “but’s” it must get done. Ex.) Paying bills or taking my vitamins.

Clearing my space – Sometimes, I have to clear my desk or room before beginning my tasks for the day. There will be less of a distraction to organize receipts and taking the trash out.

Announce your personal time off – If you live with other people in the household, you can put up a sign outside your door that you’ll be busy for the next 30 minutes or so. Or, you can humbly tell them that you need to catch up on something important and explain to them why you need this time and that you’ll be back in x-amount of minutes or if you’re lucky, hours.

Set a time limit – If you’re at a gathering and you’ve got something else that needs to be done that same day, then limit your engagement to a certain time. You can let the hostess know that you will only be able to stay for a few minutes or hours just so they’ll have a heads-up. Don’t lose track of time or you might end up regretting it when you get home. It’s hard to put restrictions on fun events but you’ll thank yourself when you’ve accomplished your important task(s) and you’re not burnt out come the following week. 

I’m grateful I was able to release some of my hectic-feelings that I’ve had these past weeks. Using my ways to prioritize, I do feel more calm and ready to take on the new year.

Here’s to 2014!

awgrat

My Grandpa…

 

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When he turned 60 years old (don’t ask me what I’m doing) lol

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NYE 2011!
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This is my grandpa at 81, he asked me to take his picture eating the delicious lobster. I’m glad I did, he was so happy here!

This evening, my 81-year old grandfather transitioned to a new life. It was hard seeing him suffer in this physical realm but I’m sure every event and moment was meant to be. I am so happy that his physical suffering is over and that he’s able to see his family in heaven. I’m sure there’s a lot of lobster there, Lolo!

I love you with all my heart and I’ll will forever cherish those memories we have together. I will always be your first granddaughter and your one millionth admirer.

Thanks to your light, love and generosity, you have definitely made this world a better place.

 

Thank you

for every happy meal

for every smile

for your thoughtfulness

loving grandma with all your heart

for sharing your chocolates

for my mother

for my family

I love you Lolo Lao

Kimberly

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Rest in Peace Lolo Jaime Lao

September 16, 1932 – December 19, 2013

Be Able to Make Decisions

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Decision-making can be difficult for some of us, especially if it’s a life-changing one that requires a lot of “thinking”. I know that for me,  I’ve has some trouble with making my own decisions in the past because I’d complicate and dissect every part of the decision I was going to make. That dissection opened more issues that I didn’t want to deal with and the logic behind each one just left me with a big headache.

After reading and listening to some of my older wise friends, something clicked in my mind. I was at a book club with my Spiritmind sisters and we were talking about the book we’re currently reading, “The 12 Sacred Principles of Karma” by Steven Hairfield and a discussion came up about intuition.

That evening, my friend was talking about how she has gotten her intuition to work positively for her. She said that many times, her first instinct reaction has always been the one she needed in the future. That first answer you get at the pit of your stomach (or your heart chakra) when you ask yourself  a question, is the only answer you’ll need.

That was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course I’ve heard this many, many times before but that evening, when she said it-it just made sense to me as if the stars all aligned for a quick minute. So from then on out, I’ve decided to listen to my first gut reaction and I’m not going back and thinking twice about it.

The best result I’ve gotten from this is that it greatly releases the stress and worry that we add on to our daily lives. Imagine being able to make a firm decision and sticking to it. Luckily, some of us have gotten this down already and have been reaping all the benefits, so do keep it up! and keep strengthening that intuition because the world needs positive leaders.

I intend that you can go confidentially in the direction of your dreams.

A special thank you to all of our Veteran’s and those who have risked their lives for our freedom. Much peace, love and light to all of you. 

awgrat

Be Able to Take Rejection

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There are as many opportunities as there are fish in the sea

 

Hi Everyone!

The topic of this post may seem “negative” but as you read on, I hope it encourages you and ignites some sort of happiness sparks (sparksofhappiness.com coming soon!)

Being able to take rejection is something we don’t usually teach our kids or talk much about. It’s sort of a negative topic that we don’t really like sharing. I bring this topic up because I’ve been rejected a couple of time in my 26 years of living and it’s not that fun. Your ego hurts, the people around you feel your pain and it takes a period of time before you can get over it. However, I am a firm believer in managing our thoughts to benefit ourselves and others. Rejection hurts, plain and simple – but how can we can benefit from this experience? There has got to be a silver lining somewhere, right?

WHY REJECTION IS AWESOME: 

  1. It builds character – Not being accepted can bruise our ego or self-esteem (if we allow it.) It can hurt for a period of time but being able to realize that you’re not suited for something or someone  allows you to work harder and be better in another aspect of your life, a particular field or even your basic outlook on life. 
  2.  It’s a sign – The Universe doesn’t want you to be at that particular place or with that particular person at this moment of your life. No matter how hard you wanted it or thought it would be good for you, it may just be a timing issue. Being able to accept that fact also builds your character as one who is understanding and can let things go. Better opportunities are most likely awaiting for you. 
  3. Gratitude is expressed – Being rejected can humble some people in certain aspects and can turn their attention to things and people that they do have in their lives.
  4. Acceptance is practiced – Acceptance aka “surrendering” is the best thing we can do when we no longer have control of what we want and need. We can get caught up by being so eager or anxious that it can definitely take a toll on our bodies. When we practice acceptance or surrendering, we lift that additional stress off our bodies.

Although it hurts, human have the capability of moving forward with life and that’s why I am so happy that rejection exsists. If we look at it in another light, it will help ease any bruises we may have encountered. Life is simply awesome and it will always move forward.

awgrat

Be Able to Embrace Your Own Style

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Photo taken at a bonsai garden in Oakland, CA

What’s your flavor? 

This past week, I had a  long conversation about how people have different tastes. I noticed that everyone has their own preferences and likes and at a certain time in your life you begin to own it. During our younger years in school, it’s a little more difficult because we don’t know exactly know who and what we’re striving to be. We want to try everything and anything.  At a younger age, our typical cares are about different things so we often get side-tracked and unaware of what we want. This phase can be very tricky so you learn what you DO want versus what you DON’T want.  Later on as we mature and grow up, we begin to notice the habits we’ve developed and what we want to do with our lives. Our own lifestyle, vales and beliefs begin to be  and we  begin to live it out and we make it our own.

Why we should embrace our own style?

If we are content with our lifestyle (even if it’s not to our liking just yet), we are expressing gratitude and in my books, gratitude is the attitude for positive abundance. Own up to your positive style and be thankful to have experienced what you’ve experienced so far & having everything that you currently DO have. I’m reminded of my favorite quote, “You have to be before you can do, and you have to do before you can have.” -Dr. Rob Anthony

Embracing your own personal style is what allows us to be confident and happy in life. When our gratitude is shown then the whole world has another light that is shining and bringing a vibrant energy to our force field. According to a fact sheet from the University of Nevada, it says that, “Energy fields do not seem to have inevitable outcomes, but seem to be influenced by what people do.” http://www.unce.unr.edu/publications/files/hn/2003/fs0368.pdf 

But what if you’re still searching for a style? 

If you’re still uncertain about what style to take on, I’d suggest finding a mentor or someone you resonate with. Take some of their qualities/traits and use them as your own if you feel comfortable with it. The more you are comfortable and confident, the more you can begin to define your life’s purpose. The more you define your purpose, the more meaningful life will be.

Quick & Simple Affirmations to  Help Own Your Style:

  • I am happy  with my lifestyle.
  • I make my decisions with ease.
  • I am always healthy and alive.
  • My daily tasks are important to me and benefits other people.
  •  I am always moving towards positive directions.
  • I am present and aware.

awgrat

Be Able to Recognize the Good

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This past weekend was a blessing for me!

I was with my mom and she told me a story about how her great-grandmother was a firm believer of the Law of Attraction. Of course, that’s not what it was called back then. However, the main strength of the  message is the same. That message was, “If you think good thoughts, good things will happen and if you think bad thoughts, bad thoughts will happen.” The “self-fulfilling prophecy” or “karma”as others call it as well. There are many different interpretations and sayings but the main message is the best and most important part.

I’m sure a lot of us may (or may not) believe in this in some way or another but do we really remember to play it out on a daily basis?

I know some days it can be hard to turn the other cheek, especially if we’re having an “off” day and I think that’s completely normal. But if we’re continuously beating or belittling ourselves on a regular basis, then it can create serious effects. Being able to recognize the good simply means, being grateful and taking a second  or two to actually look around you and notice your breath, that you have your vision and/or sense of smell. We often take those amazing things for granted and sometimes we have to step back and say, Hey! I am perfectly healthy and happy and at the end of the day that’s all that matters.

Here are some ways to recognize the good in your life:

  • Think of 3 things that went smoothly in the past 5 hours.
  • Look up at the sky and make a positive intention.
  • Inhale in and feel your chest expand with an abundance of air.
  • Write down some things your grateful for and just be thankful for those things/events.
  • Hang a nice picture up and let it remind you of the good you have in your life.
  • Play with your pets.
  • Think highly of the ones you love.

I am really grateful that my mom was able to share that little story with us, it’s as if she too was awakened to think outside the box of abundant possibilities. For that, I am happy.

awgrat

 

Be Able to Enjoy Being 26

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Hi everyone!

Words can’t describe how grateful I am that you happen to stop by.

Today marks my 26th birthday here on planet Earth and I’m the type to give thanks and express how happy I am to arrive at this age.

This past year, I learned a lot and went through some challenging situations that I wasn’t really ready for. But that’s life right?  The Universe just gives us situations to handle because they believe you’re ready for it now. So, I was given those challenges and I assume I took it like I champ because I’m still alive & kickin’! =) Honestly, I’m thankful for those challenges because I would have never learned or experienced such situations unless it was placed at that exact moment in my life.

This year, I learned how to become more comfortable in my own thoughts and to switch my negative thoughts and emotions to positive ones. I think that’s a habitual effort that I have to continue to work on, maybe until I’m in my 90’s. I know its results are beyond amazing so I intend that if you’re reading this, you’ll join me to form that amazing habit as well.

I also learned how to breathe and take a minute or two to slow down and relax. Everything is so fast-paced you’re concentrated on something that you can forget to just inhale and de-stress your body. Our bodies are always working hard and we need to give it periodic breaks for it to remain sharp and healthy. When I get overwhelmed, I stop and inhale as slow as I can and release my breath with a clear mind. That allows me to go back at my task in a better mood and I more relaxed manner.

I also learned that when faced with making decision, go with the one that makes you most happy or has a positive outcome. It isn’t being selfish because it’s going from within yourself and it feeds your soul. You have to take care of yourself before you take care of others.  Feeling guilty or overly caring about someone who is capable of their own feelings and emotions can’t do any good.

Those are some of the major things I learned and/or had to pay more attention to this year and hopefully those points can inspire you to look at your life in a positive perspective.

This space undoubtedly allows me to channel my inner happiness by sharing my personal life experiences, lessons and just living in the present moment. Thanks for letting me share that with you.

Also, thank you for taking the time to read this, I know it may sound a bit sappy but the fact that you’re reading this means you have taken the time to show your love and support for me on our happy journey through life!

Thank you the bottom of my heart.

awgrat

Be Able to Keep Learning

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Hi again!

Hope you’re all having a great July as the end of the month draws near.

This past month, I was reminded that learning something new can play a big part in our ego. I say “can” because for some people, going back to school or learning a new skill isn’t such a big deal and being able to learn is something that they yearn for. For others (like myself) we find it somewhat challenging to seek out other modes of learning something new.

For me, I know my silly ego likes to get in the way and gets bruised because she thinks she knows everything there is to know about something. Taming my ego is what I like to call it. Some days I have to put my ego on check and say, “Look, you can really benefit from this and it will be good for you to know this, now sit and learn!” It may seem childish but it helps me to strive to learn more.

Likewise, I know some individuals who are perfectly happy with learning something new, those that don’t want to hear what you’ve got to say and those who just hear portions of what you say. Which one are you?

Especially if we’re older in age, we quickly think that we know everything through experience and prior knowledge. Then, we’re faced with a question that we don’t quite know the answer to. Do we just forget about it or do we do some research and seek out the correct answers?  The ability to keep learning allows us to be more knowledgeable and experienced so when a situation arises, we can handle it.

Everyone is different and it’s understandable why some people learn particular things faster than others.

It would be in our favor to be open to learning new things and here are some reasons why:

  • It allows us to think ever further beyond our own scope.
  • It allows us to put our feet in someone else’s shoes.
  • It keeps our minds alert.
  • It exercises our minds just as we must exercise our bodies.
  • We can gather the correct information and pass it on to others, thus creating awareness.
  • It can piece together the gaps of old facts and new facts.

What’s your learning style? Do you enjoy teaching or learning? Or do you just like to soak it all in and use it when the right time calls for it?

 

awgrat

Be Free of Worries

 

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Hi all!

As June comes to an end, I’m reminded that half the year is over! How are those resolutions coming along? =)

I was thinking about our worries the other day and I thought, a lot of us can easily get carried away with our everyday worries. Our minds begin to think of one worrying thought, and then it just builds and continues until we are distracted by another thought.

Sometimes we have to just have to stop that traffic in our heads and abruptly say, “STOP!”

Is this even worth worrying that much about?” I know I find myself in that situation and it’s freeing to just be able to slow your thoughts down and say, “This too will pass.” That’s how I get through my worries of the week.

Here are some tips to stop those worrying thoughts:

  1. Take control of what thoughts you are thinking by placing the actual thoughts that you want in your head.
  2. Create a thought-reminder such as a small item, a notification on your phone or a sticky note on your desk that brings you back to the present moment that you are in.
  3. Be more grateful for where you are and what you are doing.
  4. Inhale deeply and with each exhale, release each worry.
  5. Meditate and clear you head of the thoughts, even for just 5 minutes.

I particularly like this part in Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, it says, “Your mind is an instrument. It is there to be used for a specific task, and when the task is completed, you lay it down. As it is, I would say 80 to 90 percent of most or people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless, but because of its dysfunctional and often negative nature, much of it is also harmful. Observe your mind and you will find this to be true. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy.”

It goes on to say,

“The good news is that you can free yourself from your mind. This is the only true liberation. You can take the first step right now. Pay particular attention to any repetitive thought patterns, those old gramophone records that have been playing in your head perhaps for many years.”

I truly believe that we have to be in control of our thoughts and think further out into the future. If an abrupt event happens and leaves you are shaken, just think that this is only a lesson and that you have the power to bounce back from this event.

 

Hope all of you have a worry-free week!

awgrat

Be Able to Relieve Spinal Discomforts

 

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Hi all,

This weekend, my mom shared this helpful video with me. It was shared to her by a friend and it visually shows fairly simple moves on reducing stress on the spine. I’m currently 25 years old but I have noticed pressure on my spine on several occasions.

 

Sometimes I feel as if gravity pushed down on the spine and sometimes, it just needs to stretch. I usually don’t mind it much but I have been looking for holistic ways to reduce the tension. Luckily, I ran across this video and I immediately headed to my yoga mat and tried these moves out. The results aren’t immediate but the simple exercises has relieved the tension on my spine.

For me, I just mimicked exactly what the man is doing in the video. However, I didn’t do that last move as I haven’t felt comfortable doing it just yet.

 

Here’s what the original except included: 

This video very good for relieving backaches and correcting bad spinal alignments from bad postures etc. I provided a simple English translation of the guide at the end of this writeout. The following guide is an excerpt from explanation given by demonstrator in the video and translated to English (by myself):
1st move: Lie flat on your back, bend knees and rotate lower body from side-to-side relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles. From time to time, pause and massage abdomen and waist to relieve tense muscles.
2nd move: Almost similar to 1st move, but rotate upper body together. Hands pointing about 45 deg downwards, cannot be straight down, or too high up. Make sure top of head, hips & feet always in contact with the ground when rotating, or else this exercise will not be effective. Again, relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles.This step helps to straighten the spine. If you are suffering from back discomfort, do 2nd step for longer time per session (continuously up to 2 hours no problem).** Please ignore the exemplary move where both feet were brought up to hip level and held onto by hands and body being rolled from side-to-side. This move is not in the routine, it was merely a demonstration.
3rd move: Lie flat on your back with arms raised slightly above shoulder level. Wiggle your hips up/down, your feet will look like they are in stepping motion. First do with toes up, and repeat. Then switch to toes down and repeat. Again, relaxingly without using strength or stressing the muscles. Those with bad spinal alignment will feel discomfort when doing 3rd move, it is suggested to spend longer period doing the 2nd move.
When the spine gets straightened slowly after multiple sessions, the discomfort during the 3rd move will go away.These few short moves will help a lot of people. I hope that you can share it out because somebody might be suffering much worse than myself and in need of guidance to relieve spinal related discomfort or pain. I’m thanking you on their behalf.
*Disclaimer: This video is being shared only as a guide as I find it to be effective through my personal experience stated above. I’m not the original owner of this video as it is currently shared by multiple users on Facebook & Youtube. Also, I’m not a medical practitioner and I shall not be held liable to any injuries experienced by viewers who used this guide.”

Hope this can help you or others in the same situation.

awgrat