There are as many opportunities as there are fish in the sea
The topic of this post may seem “negative” but as you read on, I hope it encourages you and ignites some sort of happiness sparks (sparksofhappiness.com coming soon!)
Being able to take rejection is something we don’t usually teach our kids or talk much about. It’s sort of a negative topic that we don’t really like sharing. I bring this topic up because I’ve been rejected a couple of time in my 26 years of living and it’s not that fun. Your ego hurts, the people around you feel your pain and it takes a period of time before you can get over it. However, I am a firm believer in managing our thoughts to benefit ourselves and others. Rejection hurts, plain and simple – but how can we can benefit from this experience? There has got to be a silver lining somewhere, right?
WHY REJECTION IS AWESOME:
- It builds character – Not being accepted can bruise our ego or self-esteem (if we allow it.) It can hurt for a period of time but being able to realize that you’re not suited for something or someone allows you to work harder and be better in another aspect of your life, a particular field or even your basic outlook on life.
- It’s a sign – The Universe doesn’t want you to be at that particular place or with that particular person at this moment of your life. No matter how hard you wanted it or thought it would be good for you, it may just be a timing issue. Being able to accept that fact also builds your character as one who is understanding and can let things go. Better opportunities are most likely awaiting for you.
- Gratitude is expressed – Being rejected can humble some people in certain aspects and can turn their attention to things and people that they do have in their lives.
- Acceptance is practiced – Acceptance aka “surrendering” is the best thing we can do when we no longer have control of what we want and need. We can get caught up by being so eager or anxious that it can definitely take a toll on our bodies. When we practice acceptance or surrendering, we lift that additional stress off our bodies.
Although it hurts, human have the capability of moving forward with life and that’s why I am so happy that rejection exsists. If we look at it in another light, it will help ease any bruises we may have encountered. Life is simply awesome and it will always move forward.
Photo taken at a bonsai garden in Oakland, CA
What’s your flavor?
This past week, I had a long conversation about how people have different tastes. I noticed that everyone has their own preferences and likes and at a certain time in your life you begin to own it. During our younger years in school, it’s a little more difficult because we don’t know exactly know who and what we’re striving to be. We want to try everything and anything. At a younger age, our typical cares are about different things so we often get side-tracked and unaware of what we want. This phase can be very tricky so you learn what you DO want versus what you DON’T want. Later on as we mature and grow up, we begin to notice the habits we’ve developed and what we want to do with our lives. Our own lifestyle, vales and beliefs begin to be and we begin to live it out and we make it our own.
Why we should embrace our own style?
If we are content with our lifestyle (even if it’s not to our liking just yet), we are expressing gratitude and in my books, gratitude is the attitude for positive abundance. Own up to your positive style and be thankful to have experienced what you’ve experienced so far & having everything that you currently DO have. I’m reminded of my favorite quote, “You have to be before you can do, and you have to do before you can have.” -Dr. Rob Anthony
Embracing your own personal style is what allows us to be confident and happy in life. When our gratitude is shown then the whole world has another light that is shining and bringing a vibrant energy to our force field. According to a fact sheet from the University of Nevada, it says that, “Energy fields do not seem to have inevitable outcomes, but seem to be influenced by what people do.” http://www.unce.unr.edu/publications/files/hn/2003/fs0368.pdf
But what if you’re still searching for a style?
If you’re still uncertain about what style to take on, I’d suggest finding a mentor or someone you resonate with. Take some of their qualities/traits and use them as your own if you feel comfortable with it. The more you are comfortable and confident, the more you can begin to define your life’s purpose. The more you define your purpose, the more meaningful life will be.
Quick & Simple Affirmations to Help Own Your Style:
- I am happy with my lifestyle.
- I make my decisions with ease.
- I am always healthy and alive.
- My daily tasks are important to me and benefits other people.
- I am always moving towards positive directions.
- I am present and aware.